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First of all, I need to apologize for not making the last meeting. A minor crisis with
my Mom made it impossible to get there on time. She is doing as well as can be expected
now. Thanks so much to those of you who called to ask what happened. I understand that a
few of you were to be found at McDonalds though, so Finders Keepers members once again
prove themselves resourceful and capable! Our next general meeting will be at the Bear Library on March 30. That's a long month, but I will keep all of you informed by e-mail and phone if things come up. And you all know where I am if you need me. Meanwhile, Sandy has agreed to hold the next support group meeting at her home on March 6 starting at 7:00, and she will hostess these meetings the first Monday of each month for the foreseeable future.These support group meetings are an opportunity to get together with other adoptees,
birth parents, and adoptive parents to talk about adoption-related concerns. You know, a
lot of people are afraid to say out loud that their reunion was not the reunion of their
dreams. It's OK! Of course you are disappointed, confused, and sometimes feeling
like you did something wrong. Most times you did just fine. But the support
meetings are a time to talk about those feelings, and to let other people tell you that you
are not alone. Guess what!? It happens. It happens to birth parents, and it happens to
adoptees. And adoptive parents hurt a lot when their adoptee feels rejected for a second
time. We are here to help each other get past these hard times, and to grow stronger and
more understanding of others' feelings, not just in adoption, but in all areas of life. Amother thing has come up that I guess a lot of you are aware of... the article in the News-Journal. The reporter said that he would not use an adoptee's reunion story without the birth mother's name. He did print another story, but it stressed the issue of medical information, which is merely a small side issue in the open records debate. Let the record show that you do not ever need to give out your birth parents' names to a reporter, or to anyone else. Your birth records and the information on them belong to you. Just because records are available under certain circumstances to adoptees in Delaware does not mean that they are now public record. They are not!
Welcome to our most recent Finders Keepers member... Margaret B. Margaret is an
adoptive mother and a grandmother. She joined us in large measure because she believes
that birth siblings have the right to know about one another and to be in contact with one
another if that is their wish. She wants to help us to find birth siblings and to work for
the humane changes in the laws that provide real openness in adoption. Margaret lives in
Bear and hopefully we will all meet her soon. Happy Belated Birthday to Tim Farrow (Adopted Adult - February 25), and John Subda
(Birth Father - February 14). Please remember Elizabeth Girardi, an adopted adult who was murdered here in Delaware,
as well as Joe Cross and Bob Sienna, who died without ever being reunited. Love ya, |
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